Getting a lover back can be a tricky proposition. Come on too strong and you'll scare them off for good, or they'll consider
you a backup plan and take their time having fun and trying to see what other options they may have, all the while you'll
be writhing in pain as they date one person after another.
Or, come across as indifferent and they'll be convinced the two of you are
over and they'll find someone else. Either way, you're screwed. The good news is that there is a happy medium, a way
to let your ex know that you still care and may be interested in a reconciliation without giving the impression that you'll
be sitting around waiting for them to make up their mind.
If you don't want to seem pathetic, it's important that you cut out all contact
with your ex. Don't call, text, email, or just show up at their home or work. Just leave them alone. This is imperative
if you don't want them to think of you as a sure thing, waiting on the sidelines. And don't worry about them forgetting
about you, if you follow this advice, they'll more than likely hear a lot about what you're doing from mutual friends.
The next thing for you to do is give up any dumb ideas of making them jealous. Sure,
it may work, they may get jealous but that doesn't mean that that jealously will make them want you back and even if it did
they'd only be getting back together with you for the wrong reasons and the relationship probably wouldn't work anyway.
What you should be doing is living your life to the fullest no matter how
hard that may seem right now. Go out with your friends, have fun. Do all the things you like to do but didn't have
the chance to do when you and your ex were together. Take this time to make yourself a better person, whatever that means
Maybe you've been meaning to take a trip, what are you waiting for?
Go, explore. This will help you in many ways: for one thing it will keep your thoughts occupied with other things besides
pain. Another benefit is that if you send a lot of postcards home to friends, your ex will hear about all the fun, interesting
things you are doing. That will intrigue them.
And lastly, you will expand yourself as a person. All new experiences help
us to grow. Every time we try something new and different, especially those things that scare us a little bit, make us
better more well rounded and interesting people. And that will help you in all aspects of your life, not just in getting
your ex back.
Concentrating on living your life and trying to be happy is the best way
of getting a lover back. It may sound odd, but everyone is attracted to interesting, fun loving people. No one is attracted to someone
who seems needy and desperate. Which one would you rather be?