by Anisa Aven
having some challenges at work.... power struggles, employers refusing to pay for my travel expenses, technical malfunctions
with equipment in the field, missed or poor communication on my part and theirs etc. I had good intentions on providing status
updates but then even the phone lines kept disconnecting on us and then I become sick with the flu.
Looking at the way everything seems to be going wrong, I've
become more aware of the fact that I have had a lot of resistance to this project from the beginning. And, I also recognize
that I have a belief that I am not 'good at field work' due to some past negative experiences. Now, I'm afraid I'm sabotaging this opportunity and they will think I'm unprofessional.
I'm not sure what I'm asking but I want to first, get healthy
and second make sure I communicate and fulfill my responsibilities next week. Do you have any suggestions?
Sometimes the fastest way to overcome resistance is through directly and intentionally applying REPENTENCE,
FORGIVENESS, and GRATITUDE (TRANSMUTATION).
Ho'oponopono to the rescue!
I've never spoken of Ho'oponopono and I'm by no stretch of the
imagination an expert on the history or practice. However, a friend introduced me a few years ago to this Ancient Hawaiian
Healing method. I have combined it personally with some quick EFT and find it to be incredibly healing. The basic premise
is one of atonement (At-One-ment with the Divine) through the process of personally accepting full responsibility for the
situation, sending forth love and compassion, forgiveness (both given and requested) and gratitude.
When used consistently, the technique is not only effective
but transformative! In fact, used often and persistently Ho’oponopono can heal not only ALL of our personal limiting
beliefs and self-limiting behaviors but can heal our world. Yes, this is a big statement. However, can anyone argue that the
energy of love is transformative? As we learn to send forth this evolutionary energy towards not only our personal situation
but every defective and dysfunctional social/environmental issue that we now face, the result will be nothing short of global
healing. When this happens we will witness the arrival of a more compassionate, loving, honoring, and sustainable world and
the Universal Human.
But… back to healing our ‘own stuff’!
There are 4 Ho'oponopono statements:
* I love you.
* I'm sorry.
* Please forgive me.
* Thank you.
The Practice: Hold the situation in your mind and repeat these
statements over and over again.
“What do you mean hold it in my mind? But, how do I hold it in my mind? Which part of the situation do I hold? What
does hold it in my mind actually mean? What do I
do if my mind wanders? Who am I saying these words
Unfortunately, the perfectionist’s pattern of rejecting
something because either it’s too simple, or we are afraid we will get it wrong, don’t fully understand, or because
we have a few unanswered questions will prevent some of you from giving this a try.
Not today!!! Allow me to break it down for you into simple bite-sized
steps that you can use, now. AND, once you ‘get’ the process, allow yourself to experiment! Cut out some of the
steps I define below and just SEE if you can send forth the healing prayer into any situation more effortlessly.
The more you use the healing instant meditation of Ho’oponopono
the easier and more effective (and healing) it will become for you.
To spell it out, holding the situation in your mind might look
* What’s the situation?
“Work is very stressful and I’m afraid I’m
not good enough. I have made some mistakes in the past and I feel as though I can’t prove myself. I’m afraid I
may get fired, reprimanded, or thought of as unprofessional and incompetent.”
* What’s the worst thing this says about me? (Tip: This
is the fastest way I know to instantly find our core limiting beliefs.)
“I’m a loser. I can’t do anything right. I’m
lazy, incompetent, and unprofessional. I’m worthless. I don’t deserve a second chance. I don’t deserve success.
I’m a failure. I sabotage myself.”
* Hold these thoughts/feelings of the above in your mind and
say the words:
I love you.
Please forgive me.
Hold’ means whatever it means for you. For visual learners, this may be visually seeing yourself in the work situation
and having these self-limiting sabotaging thoughts. For auditory learners, this may mean hearing the arguments in your head
and for kinesthetic learners you may just feel the situation.
Whatever ‘hold’ means for you, allow this to be perfect for YOU. Then, with solid intention say, “I love
you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.”
The primary intention is to allow yourself to unify with the event, situation, person, place, or thing; to join in such
a way as to accept personal responsibility for the creation of this circumstance. When you employ Ho’oponopono, you
are allowing yourself to embrace your role in the manifestation of the event and send forth love, remorse, forgiveness and
We all play a very important part in the creation of not only our own lives but our thoughts, beliefs, and actions contribute
to the global experience.
For example, our beliefs that ‘there’s not enough to go around’ actually inspire and contribute to this
reality. Our beliefs about ‘evil’, actually go forth and inspire more evil to be perpetrated.
Dr. Hew Len used Ho’oponopono to heal an entire ward of seriously psychotic patients by healing his thoughts about their illness.
He would invoke his personal responsibility and the process of self-identity with - “Please forgive me for whatever
is going on in me that I perceive this unit the way it is. I would like to make amends.”